Counselling focus
Relationships
Relationships can bring up the parts of us that protect, please, shut down, or overthink.
We can look at what keeps happening, together.
At a glance
What we can work on together
We look at the patterns that show up between you and others, and practise clearer ways to respond when possible.
This work usually includes
- Patterns that shape how you reach, withdraw, protect, or please
- Moving from reactive message loops to clearer communication
- We clarify the situations that feel most difficult
- Sessions are 50 minutes and we review the work regularly together
Details
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Common signs this shows up as...
- Repeating the same conflict, shutdown, or over-explaining loop
- Feeling anxious, avoidant, responsible, or stuck in people-pleasing
- Being constantly connected but still feeling unseen
- Struggling to set boundaries without guilt or fear of losing connection
- Finding repair hard after hurt, misunderstanding, or rejection
- Feeling lonely even when you are not alone
What we will focus on
- Patterns that shape how you reach, withdraw, protect, or please
- Moving from reactive message loops to clearer communication
- Repair after conflict, hurt, or misunderstanding
- Self-trust and boundaries that do not require you to become hard
- What helps you feel safe, connected, and still yourself
- Practising new responses in a low-pressure way
What you can expect
- We clarify the situations that feel most difficult
- Sessions are 50 minutes and we review the work regularly together
- You can practise clearer ways to communicate and repair
- We track small changes without forcing a tidy outcome
- If your needs sit outside my current scope, we can talk through supported referral pathways
This may be a good fit if
- You want support with boundaries, communication, or connection
- You are open to trying things differently between sessions
- You want to understand what keeps happening, not just get through the next argument
Not the right fit if
- You are looking for couples counselling (I currently work with individuals)
- You need crisis intervention or immediate safety planning
Professional context
AUT BHSc Counselling, final year completed, and NZAC Student Affiliate member, with over 200 hours of clinically supervised counselling experience. I receive 1 hour of supervision for every 10 hours of client work.
FAQ
Questions about relationships
Short answers to common questions about this focus area.
Do you offer couples counselling?+
Not at this stage. I work with individuals on relationship patterns and skills.
Can we talk about dating or intimacy concerns?+
Yes. We can explore dating, intimacy, sexual wellbeing, chosen family, and different relationship structures without assuming what a relationship should look like.